“The baby I hoped for finally arrived but I didn’t feel like a mother. Soon after her birth, I learned the devastating news that this child’s heart was defective, with a hole so large, she would live a sickly life until she failed to thrive. So this is what it means to be a mother, I thought. It’s about making life and death decisions and rendering care to a dependent with eyes that say “I trust you.” It’s about holding a baby pinned tight to a gurney while a nurse tries to find a tiny vein no bigger than a thread. It’s about living with the pain in my heart when the trusting look in her eyes turns to fear as I hold her down. And I thought motherhood meant baking cookies and stroller rides and hugs.
The isolation of being a new mother was exaggerated by overnight stays in the hospital and caring for a sick infant. The transition to motherhood was not what I expected, and the disappointment and sense of loss for my “old” life and my future dreams unfulfilled was consuming.
I joined the Mothers’ Center two months after this stressful crisis in order to find normalcy in motherhood. I soon found out that the journey to motherhood was a bumpy road for many, not just me. At the Mothers’ Center, I was able to express my feelings in a safe, nurturing, non-judgmental environment. I found strength in sharing with others, I found strength to have another baby, and I found deep satisfaction in helping others who are struggling because I so strongly remember those who helped me along the way. As the mother of now two children who have developmental delays and special education needs, the Mothers’ Center remains a critical source of balance and perspective in my life.”
- J.R. Long Island
“From the initial transition to motherhood to the more recent transition back to work, my Mothers' Center experiences have strengthened me. Feeling inadequate in my new role and depressed about abandoning my career, I remember seeing a light at the end of the tunnel. My connection to the Mothers Center Organization began to fill the hole within me. Personally, I have incorporated the Mothers Center philosophies and skills into all areas of my life. As a result, I am not only a better parent, but a better person. My children have benefited from the center too. They were exposed to an educational and fun childcare experience, playgroups, outings and peer stimulation. They are proud to be Mothers Center kids.
I take with me all I have learned and leave behind all I was graciously able to give. Thank you, Mothers Center!!”
- G.C. Long Island
"Instantly, I felt connected. I saw moms who were in the same stage of life, also needing assistance and affirmation... Not only did I find answers, I felt wanted and needed. I made friends. True friends. My kids made friends. Others valued my opinion as a mom."
“When my second child turned 2, I was concerned that he was not speaking as much as he should. His first grade teacher told me she thought my son was retarded and I should have him tested. I learned from the Mother's Center that I had a voice and I used that voice to advocate for my child. As a result, my son had the schooling he needed and is now a college freshman pursuing his dreams.
I feel this (success for my son) is all thanks to the Mothers’ Center. All the while I had the support of my Mother's Center friends. They helped me to find my voice, gain self confidence and taught me to stand up for something that I believed in, which was my son.”
- Jen, Staten Island Mothers’ Center Member
"It is a place to share and learn and grow as a mother...all mothers should have a Mothers' Center experience."
"Mothers' Center is all of us connecting and sharing our compassion and knowledge with each other."
"The Mothers' Center has impacted my life in many ways but none is so obvious as the fact that it has helped me grow as a person and as a mom."
"The Mothers' Center's 'non-judgmental' mindset has changed my life...my way of conducting personal, family and business relationships."